Forgiveness is such a simple word but a difficult action to do in certain situations. The act of forgiving is described as a peaceful result to a tough argument or disagreement. 62% of Americans said they struggle with forgiveness and 60% said forgiving someone would depending on the other person apologizing first. In reality 7 out of 10 people refuse to own up to a situation and apologize first. Saying you’re sorry and admitting you made a mistake is one of the toughest things to do. Earlier this week i read in Ephesians 4:31-32 it said “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving on another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Forgiveness starts with forgiving yourself. Understanding everyone makes mistakes and it’s okay to mess up every once in a while because that’s apart of being human.
It’s so easy to turn pain into blame and confusion into bitterness. It’s so hard not to fear the unknown and become angry at those who hurt us. It’s not easy to love the brokenness and listen without trying to argue. What does being harsh to someone do for you though? Leaves you empty, angry, and allows you to hold on to unhealthy feelings. There’s no easy way to forgive someone you believe shouldn’t be forgiven but, it’s not about the other person. It’s about doing what’s best for you. Truly moving on means letting go and being set free.
Colossians 3:13 says “forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Here are 10 simple steps I’ve learned about forgiving:
- Move on from the past.
- Turn your pain over to God.
- Don’t go to sleep angry.
- Switch the focus from blaming others to understanding yourself.
- Avoid telling people what to do.
- Take responsibility for your part.
- Learn to let go.
- Be kind instead of right.
- Refrain from judgement.
- Learn to love.
Jesus said “If you don’t let go of resentment, if you refuse to forgive others, you’ll be robbing yourself of your heavenly father’s forgiveness” – Matt 6:15
It’s an everyday battle to try and live as the Lord did. Forgiving the unforgivable, Loving the difficult, and staying away from judgement. When you feel overwhelmed by life, pray is always the best healer. Don’t remain a prisoner in your own life. Learn to let go. Learn to love.
Learn to forgive.